Instead of beating yourself up….

¯¯Summer time…¯¯

July already… more than half way through the year. 

«  What have you wished for this year?

«  How close are you to achieving your dreams?

Instead of beating yourself up for not getting everything done that you think you ‘should’ have done,

I invite you to make a list of what you have….

«  recently accomplished,

«  chosen to do or be,

«  enjoyed,

«  gotten through,

«  moved forward on,

«  lifted the spirits of another,

«  AND be sure to include everything that involved playing, moodling, doodling and pondering.

If you are stumped on finding anything you consider worthy of ‘The List’, pretend that you are a good friend of yours.  What would you tell your friend to put on the list?

And then, I invite you to find a way to celebrate those items on the list. 

We generally haven’t been taught to celebrate ourselves… yet celebrating is one of the most empowering coaching and self-coaching techniques.  When you take a moment to really notice the grandness of you – your perspective shifts, your energy shifts, your ‘self sabotaging’ self talk lessens, and you create space in your thoughts for enthusiasm, confidence, and new ideas.

Coaching clients are often stumped when I ask them for the first time,

“How will you celebrate that?”

It doesn’t take long, though, before the celebrations become an integral part of their lives.  The results are simply too effective to ignore.  Celebrations can be as simple as lighting a special candle for oneself, to going for a hike you’ve been ‘meaning’ to get to,  or getting your toenails painted (this is especially fun for the guys.), treating yourself to a movie with buttered popcorn,  or taking a weekend holiday.

One client who always created goodie bags for events,  had a joyous time shopping for a goodie bag of inexpensive treats for herself. 

As you read this, are you feeling completely stumped? Do you have no idea of what you would celebrate or how you would celebrate?  In fact, do you think maybe you’ll just ignore this and skip through to the end to see how ‘she signs this one off’? 

Aw, come on, get a piece of paper and spend five minutes acknowledging you.  And pretend you have no choice but to come up with a celebration.

You’re worth it.  Notice how the ‘not so necessary’ thoughts diminish when you celebrate you.   This simple step  (albeit not always ‘easy’ at first)  nurtures the energy you need to find the ways for your wishes and goals to become a reality. . .  You know, those ones we hoped for 2008, but haven’t quite been able to get to yet.