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What the world needs now…

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You know that moment when you feel absolute unconditional love.. a love that will last forever? Perhaps when you hold that newborn baby, or the dog in your lap looks at you with those unconditional loving eyes, and you just know? You know you will love them no matter what happens. No matter how they behave. No matter whether they make mistakes or even if they ever choose not to love you. You just love them unconditionally, No. Matter. What.  Can you feel that feeling?
Today, on International Women’s Day, I wish that every woman in the world could feel that way about themselves. Pure unconditional love. A lofty wish, I know. Maybe if you just try it, somehow that energy will ripple out. Men, I wish it for you, too. Just imagine the world if this could happen.

Happy Groundhog Day! How will you celebrate?

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Really. How will you celebrate?

Use anything as an excuse to celebrate, even a groundhog. Celebrations are a bit like a gratitude journal in action. Celebrate today, celebrate your being here today, celebrate something you are pleased about, celebrate your shadow whether you see it or not.
Did I say celebrate your shadow?  Sure did. When the groundhog sees her shadow, it’s a celebration that spring is on it’s way.  Wait, no, it’s the opposite! That doesn’t make sense at all: Sunny day… seeing a shadow… you would think it would be a sign of spring. Well, good for you, Groundhog, for your out-of-the-box thinking.  And that’s okay – my point is about acknowledging the shadow we all have.  And celebrating it, as well as all the wonderful things about you.

The thing about shadows is that our shadow plays it’s most serious havoc when we try to tuck it away. It simmers into something inside that you think is dark and difficult, but honestly, when you actually look at it (pretending it belongs to good friend is a good perspective to see it differently), or play with it, draw it, collage it, paint it, turn it into a poem, or heck, take it paddling – you discover:

  1. the part of you that you thought was so …ummm… dark, isn’t.
  2. you’ve spent a lot of thought energy tucking it in – it takes less energy to have a look at it, and it frees a whole lot of energy for other things.
  3.  it’s a fabulous fuel for creative expression! You might even come to appreciate your shadow; after all, it arrived in your best interest at some time in your life. It just got turned darker as it got buried.
  4. If you happen to be practicing the art of non-judgement, exploring your shadow is a good place to see how you are progressing.

More about celebrating: 

cel·e·bra·tion: ˌseləˈbrāSH(ə)n/
noun
noun: celebration; plural noun: celebrations

1.  the action of marking one’s pleasure at an important event or occasion by engaging in enjoyable, typically social, activity

2.  an action that acknowledges something valuable within us, that can otherwise easily go unnoticed.

Okay, yes, I made up the second one, just in case you are off to google ‘celebration.’

One more little celebration tip:  Keep it simple for starts. It’s very common for a client who has been invited to celebrate a success to say “I will plan a vacation in 6 months.”  Great! But, in fact, that big longterm goal won’t do the job of celebrating a success now, when you most need to acknowledge it.  Plus, it adds a new pressure to get something big done!  When I ask if there is something simpler that could be done today, things like these evolve; “have a chocolate sundae,”  “give myself permission to curl up by the fire and read for an hour,” “snowshoe tomorrow,”  “light my favourite candle and be quiet for a moment,”… these are things that are do-able, that feel good.  Just pick something that lifts your spirits or pampers you a bit. That’s enough.

And so, I ask again, how will you celebrate?

(My latest newsletter has some upcoming opportunities to explore celebrating, shadows, imagination, sparks. If you are curious, please click here: http://us7.campaign-archive2.com/?u=b5e1f9413f21b5cbe7a1b58e6&id=02dd494774 )

Want to be outrageous with me?

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This is a bit of a celebration for me… posting what I’m up to these days in my business life.  It says, “Oh, my gosh, Janet, you are getting back in full swing after a few years of healing. Yeehaw!” So, here.. here’s what I’m up to. And, of course, I’d love to have you onboard with any of these – they all provide the opportunity to find that spark and be even more of that outrageous wonderful self that you are – but mostly, thanks for being here to share the celebration! 

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A 6 week online interactive webinar course and private facebook community, with creative experiences to play with weekly.Fair warning, there is nothing very normal about how we make these discoveries. This, however, makes it even more likely your discoveries and the tools you learn will stay with you for life.. because our minds and souls love a good creative not-very-normal adventure!
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Modern Day Muse Certification Course 

Starts February 16.  Ever popular, this tried and true training provides radical awareness, creative principles, and empowering tools, in the guise of wise, quirky and entertaining muses. Based on Jill Badonsky‘s book, “The Nine Modern Day Muses and a Bodyguard.”

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One-on-One Life and Creativity Coaching 

This one… this is the best way to find your spark quickly and forever. If you are truly ready to take your life and/or your projects to new levels, one-on-one coaching offers professional support, empowering tools, a creative mind to collaborate with, and so much more. Ready, set, GO learn more!

facebook realm travellersClay Alchemy 101+ – FULL, but perhaps something of interest in the future?

Starts January 15th and 16th in Kamloops BC
The pottery studio is up and running once again in a most magical location. Join me in this 4 session introduction to pottery. From a lump of clay to a glazed creation, you will get to experience the alchemy of clay and yes, you will have finished projects to show for your discoveries.
Comes with some personal alchemy, too, no doubt!   HERE.

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OR maybe…
…just a couple creative thinking tools to play with? Or an imagination workshop in a t-shirt? 
Curious?

 

The Outrageous List

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The New Year: A fresh start, yes. Yet, too often it comes with a heavy pressure to make changes. As if you aren’t good enough already. Sheesh.

If you happen to be heading into the new year with resolutions and they don’t feel awesome… quick, let them go now. I have a better idea.

What if, instead, you simply choose to ignite your spark?  Wake up that feeling that really lifts your spirits, makes you laugh, throws you into new and wild wonderful directions of thinking? The spark that reignites the energy that is the true fuel for getting things done, for making changes, and for connecting to what really does matter for you? And even more importantly, that spark that can and will get you through whatever life throws your way.

Yes, it’s important, that spark. Willing to experiment with that concept?  The thing is, it’s seldom logical thinking that ignites the spark. Logical tends to keep us exactly where we are. Imagination, playfulness, creative thinking… those can lead us to that soulful brilliant spark we all have within us.

A little outrageous and ridiculous thinking, as it happens, is one little tool that can help us sneak past all that logic…

The Outrageous and Ridiculous and Possibly Impossible List 

Example -here’s mine:

1. Apply as crew on a replica viking ship travelling from the Netherlands to America. (Logically, it is very unlikely I would even be considered given my age and limited experience) So why would I apply? You’ll see.

2. Be in London in April to celebrate at the Book Release Party  for “The Strawberry Girl” with the author, Lisa Stromme, my client and friend.  Hers is the fairytale story of  an author. Like any fairytale, it comes with the obstacles overcome, the ups, the downs, and the happy ending of having a novel about to be published in so many countries, I have lost count.  My part in this is a fairytale story of a coach, witnessing this extraordinary woman’s process to reach such a grand result. And so, against all odds, (because my life has been a bit crazy and I don’t have a clear picture of how I will make this work) I want to celebrate in person with Lisa.

3. Alternative idea: A celebration with Lisa in her home country of Norway before I leave on the Viking ship. Oh, I do like this option.

So, why would I come up with outrageous goals that hardly seem possible? Because this is the stuff my imagination loves. Because I can feel my mind automatically releasing limiting beliefs that can stop me (they can sneak in no matter how hard one works at keeping them at bay!)  Because making a list like this ignites my adventurous soul. Because applying for the Viking crew makes me laugh out loud, and filling out the application is empowering. Because if I don’t get to do these things, it doesn’t matter… the thoughts alone have already kindled that wild spark in me, reminding me it exists and how very important it is to me. The spark alone gives me energy and it will continue to play out in all walks of my life, perhaps sometimes outrageously, more often subtly and gently guiding my actions, guiding my choices, supporting me through ups and downs, and making me feel happy.

Your turn? Simply make the outrageous list, and feel the spark ignite as you write it, research it, and process the ideas in your mind. Acknowledge that feeling: truly consciously be aware of it. Feel it in your body, mind and soul. Invite it to hang out with you more often. That’s enough to make a difference as you head into the new year. Honestly, it’s almost like magic how it can guide you.

Dare to share your outrageous list?  That could be a great next small step towards it all happening! ~smile~

 

Wishes!

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Wishes for you…

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The Christmas Cross-Off List, and Magic

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Tis the Season to Audaciously Cross Things OFF the Way Too Long “To Do” List. It’s one sure way to notice the magical spirit of it all.

Step 1:  Take out the To Do List

Step 2:  Take a big breath and start crossing things off.

“I can’t do that!!” you might be thinking. Let me convince you: Your TO DO List is likely a key factor in you’re not getting to enjoy the season nearly as much as you could be.  The list is long. It’s overwhelming. It’s full of unrealistic expectations.  It’s in your thoughts so much that when you are doing something you enjoy, you’re thinking of the TO DO List.
So let’s turn that TO DO list into an “I GET TO DO” list.

Step 3: Across the top of the TO DO List, write: How can I make this simpler?  Heck, how can I make this fun?

Step 4:  Cross things off the list – pretend you are an editor who must trim a 500 word article to 50 words..  Your list will start to look like this:

TIPS for CROSS OFFS:

The Baking List:  Cross off all but 3 or 4 favourites.  Cross off everything that’s complicated to cook.  If tradition has you building a gingerbread house that gets thrown away at the end of the season, cross it off.  Will it still be Christmas without Russian Teacakes or fudge that you burn three times before it turns out right? Yes.

Kids’ Gift List:  Still trying to balance the number and value of gifts for your kids?  Stop. You know you love them equally. “Balancing” just costs you more and more money.  If the list is already way out of balance – so much so that one child will be sure you don’t love them at all – cross the extra gifts off the list. Put them away for a birthday or return them after Christmas.  A tip to simplify gift giving for kids: Give them one thing they think they want, one thing they need or that you know they would like, a book, and if you love board games or movies, add that.  This could be the year that you’ve decided to reduce ‘stuff’ to help the environment.  Your kids might.. maybe.. buy into that, especially if ‘experiences’ like movies or skiing become a part of the gift giving tradition.

Gift list that has you going to 12 different stores:  Pick a theme like ‘books’ and spend a relaxing afternoon in the book store choosing a special book, magazine or journal for in-laws, parents, siblings and friends.  Or pick a craft or baking project and spend creative time at home with a hot chocolate, fancy coffee, or mulled wine making gifts. Or buy them experiences like movie passes, gifted with some nice organic popcorn, perhaps.

Christmas Dinner:  Can you break tradition and make it simpler?  Premake side dishes?  Have others bring a side dish?

One year, most of my family was out of town, and just my two daughters and I were going to be having Christmas together. They told me not to plan dinner. They had a surprise, they said. Do you know how hard that was? What? No Turkey? No preplanning all that goes into Turkey dinner? The surprise was that they had planned to cook us a Persian dinner! I hadn’t had persian food since I’d lived in Iran when I was in my 20’s… it was such a thoughtful and delicious present.  And look, here I am talking about the Persian Christmas dinner and not about all the other 50+ turkey dinners. We survived (thrived) doing Christmas dinner differently. So can you.

Events:  What events on the list make you smile and what ones feel like pressure?  Try really really hard to cross off the pressure events.  They might be events you ‘should’ attend, but remember you are trying to reduce the overwhelm.  Once you are done with all of the cross off’s, you might actually have time to do the things you’d adore doing.  Your list might start to look like this:

  • More story times with the kids.
  • Read a book.
  • Write a story. Play with paints.
  • Sit by the fire and do nothing.
  • Go Tobogganing, snowshoeing, skiing.
  • Breath. Be present. Notice that there is actually magic at Christmas.

Notice how your TO DO list is turning into an I GET TO DO list? Feeling some relief? Now, in this more peaceful state;  watch for it, listen for it, feel it…there is magic….

 

 

 

How to Send Love. Do it for Paris.

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Our world is insane.  There’s so much that goes on that I don’t think we can ever understand until it is our turn to leave this earthly realm… so until then, we may not understand the why of it all, but we can make a difference to help heal those who are suffering. The tragedy in Paris has me writing this post. I have been doing what I do, and what many others do, when there is a crisis. I have been sending loving thoughts. But what many people don’t know; this is not a token gesture. Sending loving thoughts matters. It makes a difference.

Here’s how I first learned this:

A couple of decades ago, my daughters and I were on a road trip and the traffic came to a standstill on the highway. As we waited, it became clear there had been an accident. People driving on a highway are all on their way somewhere and we noticed many drivers in the standstill were not happy. Getting out of their cars, we watched people display impatience, annoyance, anger, and oh my god, inconvenience. Someone’s life had just been changed forever. Someone’s life might well have been taken. A ripple effect of a serious car accident affects so many others, not just those involved. I don’t suppose anybody who was in that traffic lineup had the right to be complaining in that moment.

And so, my daughters and I decided we would take a moment to send good thoughts to the people involved in the accident, and to whomever else was affected that might need to know others care.  So we paused, and ‘sent’ loving thoughts with our minds. It seemed that was about all we could do to help while we waited.

A few days later I read a news story: A woman had been in a traffic accident somewhere in the U.S. She tells the story: Her spirit left her body and she could sense all this red anger radiating from the cars around her. Then she spotted a car that radiated a warm golden energy and she went towards it. The woman in that car was sending her love. Her quote went something like this: “That stranger was sending me love! She was praying for me! I was so surprised and felt happy.” She was so warmed and fueled by these thoughts that she travelled back to her body to live.  Here’s the clincher that made this a news story: That woman remained in a coma for six months. When she woke, she asked to find the person whose license plate was ——.  Yes, she had remembered the license plate number of the car whose driver had sent loving thoughts. When they tracked down the owner of the car, the woman who had been in a coma thanked the driver, saying it was because of her that she could go back to her body and live.

Uh huh. Now, that was a rather powerful affirmation that sending love is more than a token gesture. And this was back in the day when stories that made the news were researched and accurate.

Since then, when I hear an emergency vehicle’s sirens, I always send blessings and love to those who need the emergency vehicle and eventually I also expanded that to include those operating the emergency vehicle. No matter what the reason for an emergency vehicle, somebody needs help. It’s not up to me to decide what kind of help, I just send the thoughts.

It’s simple to do. Take a breath. Connect to a feeling of love and compassion that you have experienced before. You could just imagine how much you love somebody, or feel empathy towards. Just feel that loving compassionate feeling even a little bit, even if you feel like you are ‘just imagining’ it, or making it up. Then imagine that feeling is an energy, or a bit of wind, or stardust, or heck, a helium balloon and send it off to where it is needed.

That’s it. And then trust it is doing whatever it needs to do.

We’ve all heard powerful stories of groups gathering and meditating for change, or of prayer groups and miracle healings. It works. But, you don’t need a group. One person’s thoughts makes a difference. And if a whole bunch of individuals send thoughts… that can only be good.

Now is a good time to practise. For Paris. And for whenever you sense people are hurting – physically, emotionally, and/or spiritually – and could use some love.

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