The new and improved Super Momma says “Whoops, Mommy Brain!“ and laughs out loud. She knows mommy brain is a mega super conscious quantum tool that is reminding her to ‘do less.’
The new and improved Super Momma looks at her unbalanced dinner, adds slices of apple to each plate and says, “Good enough.”
The new and improved Super Momma has a laundry room with a door, and the clean clothes are in a clean pile most of the time. She might have baskets she and the kids playfully and haphazardly sort the clothes into in a very basketball game-like way. Or not.
If the Super Momma is going to fold clothes, she’ll do it on the couch watching a favourite movie or when someone has come for tea… guests will usually start helping.
The new and improved Super Momma puts ‘Ditto” up in lights on their home that is next door to an extravagant Christmas light display. In Spring, she posts a ditto sign in her one thriving shrub, pointed towards her neighbours fully landscaped, tweezer pruned yard.
The new and improved Super Momma yells, “Honey I shrunk the kids!” after hiding the kids in a closet, and takes one moment to give her husband a passionate kiss before the evening chaos begins, and calls that ‘relationship connection’ done.
The new and improved Super momma goes to yoga. If she likes yoga. But sometimes Mommy Brain kicks in and she ends up at a coffee shop instead, sipping lattes and reading a good book. “Sheesh, how did that happen?” she wonders.
The new and improve Super Momma plays with her kids doing the thing she loves. And if Playmobil and Trucks on the floor are not her thing, she calls that type of play ‘the children’s independent playtime.’
The new and improved Super Momma picks one night a month to do things she wants. She knows Full Moon is a good choice; family be can more easily convinced to support her outing because Full Moon can make people act oddly and they wouldn’t want to mess that. Not only that, if her family happens to be the ones acting oddly during full moon, she gets to escape.
The new and improved Super Momma looks at her kid/s and says out loud, “Dang, you are precious!” even when they are dressed funny, the felt pen won’t wash off, and they’ve been whiny all morning. She notices she just feels good saying it. That, and she loves watching the older kids’ bewilderment when they know they weren’t being all that precious.
The new and improved Super Momma passes the buck. When it’s hard for the kids to do their chores or homework, she makes a habit of asking them “How can you make this fun?” and then she trusts that the children have an inner wisdom and innate playful creative side and they can come up with an answer.
The new and improved Super Momma doesn’t go crazy cleaning up for guests. She doesn’t want her guests to miss an opportunity to really get to know her. She serves tea besides the laundry mess and says, “Tea? Towel?”
The new and improved Super Momma enjoys creating her and her family’s life by design rather than default and in finding ways to do that, she gravitates toward “simple and do-able.”
The new and improved Super Momma models ‘doing things differently’ proudly, knowing the ‘old ways of the 50’s to 2017’s caused overwhelmed, over-guilted, under –funned mommas.
The new and improved Super Momma models imperfection proudly, knowing she is changing the world one small imperfection at a time.
By Janet L.Whitehead
Originally written for Kamloops Momma Feb 2012
Professional Life Coach, Master Creativity Coach, and clearly an advocate for Moms